There is a difference between dealing with trauma and healing with trauma.
When you heal from trauma you see that if trauma is the compost heap, it can be used to fertile your soul.
All our survival mechanisms were and are a vital way of keeping ourselves safe.
They are not to be done away with,
To shun and judge…
What you resist will persist.
Embrace and thank them for helping you to survive,
Then celebrate the gifts they have brought you.
You can acknowledge that having taken responsibility for others pain can transform into a courageous willingness to accept the concept of “I am responsible for my life”.
You will have the emotional fortitude to do this because of your trauma.
When i work with trauma, I dont dwell on the pain. I witness your story
and hold you while you feel the feelings.
Then we look at transformation and observe as the butterfly emerges and can fly.
Fly with the awareness that there was a struggle before transformation and that’s why it’s magnificent and dance gently with the other magnificent ones.